Not sure what coaching actually is or how it differs from therapy? Learn what coaching is, how it works, who it is for, what happens in sessions, coaching boundaries, and how it can help you set and achieve meaningful goals.
Quick summary: Coaching is a structured, collaborative process that helps you set and attain the goals you want, while following through consistently. It is generally more present- and future-oriented than therapy and is aimed at growth, change, and taking concrete action in securing your goals.
What Is Coaching?
Coaching is a structured, collaborative process that helps you decide how to set and attain the goals you want, while following through consistently. Coaching helps by giving you structure, reflection, challenge, and accountability. It is generally more present- and future-oriented than therapy and is aimed at growth, change, and taking concrete action in securing your goals.
Who Coaching Is For
Coaching may be useful if you want help with:
- Stress management
- Confidence
- Procrastination
- Habits and routines
- Communication
- Boundaries
- Motivation
- Accountability
- Life or career transitions
Good coaching helps you:
- Gain insight on goals
- Identify barriers to success
- Make value-driven decisions
- Learn to take action directly
- Remain accountable to yourself
- Build better patterns over time
The Coaching Process
A coaching session is usually focused and practical. Coaching sessions can include:
- Analysing thinking or behavioural patterns
- Clarifying goals and what they mean to you
- Discussing barriers impeding progress towards goals
- Collaborating to focus on generating the next steps
- Reviewing progress
- Maintaining motivation to attain goals set
Depending on the coach, sessions may draw on methods such as:
- SMART goal-setting
- Solution-focused work
- Strengths-based work
- Motivational interviewing
- CBT-informed techniques
Coaching is client-directed and collaborative. The coach is not there just to hand out advice, but to help you think, choose, and act more effectively. Coaching mediums can be: one-to-one, in small groups, in-person, and online. Broadly speaking, coaching sessions are often short-term and may be more spread out (e.g., once every two weeks) compared to therapy (often weekly).
Coaching Benefits
Coaching can be helpful because it specifically targets barriers that prevent you from achieving the goals that you want. In other words, coaching enables you to overcome practical barriers and/or explore skills that enable you to progress towards what you hope to achieve. Some common skills can include:
- Cognitive reframing
- Thought monitoring
- Problem-solving
- Assertiveness training
- Communication skills
- Stress management
- Routine building
- Relapse prevention
Some coaching is straightforward and practical. Some is more psychologically informed.
Coaching Boundaries
Coaching is not:
- Therapy
- Trauma treatment
- Crisis support
- Diagnosis
Coaching cannot be used in place of therapy when someone is dealing with:
- Conditions requiring crisis intervention
- Comorbid or complex presentations
- Risk of harm to self or others
Coaching Checklist
Look for someone who:
- Is able to clearly identify and explain the coaching process and scope
- Maintains clear boundaries
- Challenges you constructively, not just encourage vaguely
- Understands when someone needs therapy or another kind of support instead
- Is someone that you genuinely enjoy working with
Final Takeaway
Coaching helps people who are stuck, overwhelmed, inconsistent, or lacking direction, but who are not necessarily in deep psychological distress. It works best when the goal is to improve how you think, act, decide, and follow through. It is collaborative, action-oriented, and usually focused on present and future change.